Features
- Cover Type: Paperback with 256 pages
- Published by: Fireside June 5, 2001
- Written in: English
- ISBN 10 Number: 0684871882
- ISBN 13 Number: 978-0684871882
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Book Dimensions:
8.5 x 5.7 x 0.7 inches
- Weighs: 9.1 ounces
From Library Journal
Love, a family and marriage therapist and coauthor of Hot Monogamy, here offers hope to those who feel that the flame of amour has gone out. She explains that all relationships go through predictable patterns and outlines the four up-and-down stages of love: Infatuation, Post-Rapture, Discovery, and Connection. She explains how physiological changes account for some of the intense feelings brought on by initial attraction for example, how phenylethylamine, dopamine, and norpinephrine combine to create the natural high new lovers feel that helps them bond. Love goes on to explain that this heady infatuation stage, glorious as it may be, is not what love is really about. She explodes myths that can destroy relationships, such as "If my partner really loved me s/he'd know what I wanted all the time." Other potential problems, as when a couple has different priorities for their relationship, are outlined and addressed. Including quizzes and lists of questions for discussion, this fluidly written book is recommended for all public libraries.
Copyright 2001 Reed Business Information, Inc.
Product Review
Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. and Helen Lakelly Hunt, M.A.
The most realistic and practical book on love that we have seen. Every couple
wanting to deepen or save their relationship should read it.
John Gray
author of
Men Are from Mars, Women Are from VenusPat Love has given us a new way of understanding and improving relationships. An extraordinary book.
Michele Weiner-Davis
author of
Divorce Busting and
Getting Through to the Man You LoveWith wisdom, compassion, humor, and grace, Pat Love gently nudges us away from our dearly held notions about relationships and teaches us what is truly the heart and soul of love.
William Glasser, M.D.
author of
Getting Together and Staying TogetherA fascinating look into the chemistry of love and the realities of relationships; a book that opens the door, too long closed, to success in marriage.
Reader Reviews"When you look at societies with the least stable marriages and highest divorce rates, they are the ones that use infatuation as the sole or major criterion for marriage." ~ pg. 37 Can you fall in love with the same person numerous times? Is this what the title implies? Why do couples make the mistake of ending their relationship when they don't feel "in love" anymore? Pat Love explores love in long-term relationships and tells you what you can expect. In a country where most people seem more interested in serial monogamy is it possible to convince people to stay with their partners even if they no longer feel the euphoric highs of being in love? This book is part interesting facts and part marriage counseling. Pat Love shows how to successfully navigate the highs and lows of love. She doesn't promise that you will always feel the bliss of infatuation but she does promote a more mature type of love that helps couples remain happy in a long-term relationship. On an interesting note, the author took testosterone to see what it felt like to have a high sex drive. She also claims that "one person can transform a relationship." You may also want to read: Red-Hot Monogamy: Making Your Marriage Sizzle. ~The Rebecca Review
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