Features
- Cover Type: Paperback with 288 pages
- Published by: Howell Book House
- Edition: 1st Edition February 21, 2000
- Written in: English
- ISBN 10 Number: 0876056265
- ISBN 13 Number: 978-0876056264
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Book Dimensions:
9.2 x 6.2 x 0.8 inches
- Weighs: 1 pounds
Product Review
"Dr. Gavriele-Gold has come up with a totally new concept in understanding the connection between man and lady and beast. This book is mind-opening in its analysis and totally practical in its application. The author gives dramatic examples of the psychological roles pets play in our lives--not just as source of love and companionship--but what they represent in terms of our own individual family backgrounds. But he doesn't leave you hanging there. He helps couples resolve conflicts over pets to everyone's satisfaction--including the pet's!" --
Steven S. Simring, M.D., co-author"Dr. Gavriele-Gold puts words to the feelings that many pet owners--or partners of pet owners--are too afraid to express and explains clearly how to acknowledge and cope with them." --
John Gray, Ph.D., author"It is a fortunate companion animal whose owner reads this book. The author's insights into the psychological aspects of the human/animal bond are fascinating and enlightening. I recommend this book for anyone seeking to improve the quality of life for themselves and their animals." --
Stephanie LaFarge, Ph.D., Director of Counseling Services, ASPCA
Product Description
How to Keep Love—And Romance—In the Human/Animal Kingdom of Your Home- When you're fighting about the dog, is it really about your in-laws? When your boyfriend says, It's either me or the cat," isn't there a way you can keep both?
- And what can you do when your girlfriend's Chihuahua can't get along with your Boxer, but you want to move in together?
Dr. Gold to the rescue, with a practical guide for couples who just want a peaceable kingdom. Sometimes animals take the place of people in relationships, so when we argue about the hamster, we may really be arguing about the children or an old boyfriend. Feelings of jealousy, anger, control, guilt, and fear can all play themselves out through our pets. Dr. Gold explains how conflicts over pets are often signs of deeper conflicts between couples, and shows how you can get at the root of these conflicts, bring them into the open and resolve them."
Reader ReviewsMy husband Mark says when we got married he entered my biosphere. This came as something of a shock to him, because he really expected to have a relationship like the one his parents had. His mother did not like animals of any sort. Before Mark and I met my household consisted of: one six year old boy and his garter snake collection, a large mutt named Smitty whose head was level with the kitchen table, and a zen master cat named Charlie. We all got along just fine, thank you, but had to make room for Mark. Mark had never been allowed to have pets when he was a kid, except for a series of moribund goldfish which tried to survive in a small round fishtank without benefit of air filters. Learning to care for what were now OUR pets gave Mark the chance to make up for what he had missed as a boy. The dog, however, had never really wanted a Mark in his life. My son was also not always enthused. Mark and Smitty and David were all natural competitors, Smitty ate Mark's breakfast every morning without fail. David listened to cartoons (loud!). Mark's response when he is in a rage is to pretend that the offending party doesn't exist. It's very hard to ignore a dog when he's bigger than you are,and a kid who turns the TV set up full blast to really enjoy Woody Woodpecker. It's not easy to live with a man who is angry at you all the time because he's jealous of your child and your dog either. I felt like I was stuck between all three of them. Maybe if we had had the benefit of Dr. Gold's book we could have solved our problems a lot faster.
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