Features
- Cover Type: Paperback with 304 pages
- Published by: Fireside June 1, 1992
- Written in: English
- ISBN 10 Number: 0671738135
- ISBN 13 Number: 978-0671738136
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Book Dimensions:
8.3 x 5.5 x 0.9 inches
- Weighs: 10.4 ounces
Product Description
With warmth and encouragement, along with her original ten-step process, Carolynn Hillman puts self-esteem and the accomplishments and real satisfaction it engenders within the reach of every woman. Her straightforward approach to conquering feelings of inadequacy and self-defeating behavior include:
* Practicing six key ways of nurturing yourself
* Recognizing and appreciating your good points
* Silencing the inner-critic -- and heeding the inner-child
* Breaking the self-imposed failure cycle
* Overcoming external obstacles that limit your progress
Recovery of Your Self-Esteem supports readers with participatory exercises and inspiring examples that confirm feelings of increased self-respect and achievement. It offers invaluable advice and understanding that will pave the way toward feeling better more of the time.
About The Author
Carolynn Hillman is a Board-Certified Diplomate in clinical social work. She received her B.A. from Barnard College, her M.S.W. from Hunter College, and her psychoanalytic training at the National Institute of the Psychotherapies. She is also an AASECT (American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists) certified sex therapist. For the past twenty-four years she has been helping women and men fulfill their potential and raise their self-esteem. She lives in Teaneck, New Jersey, with her husband and two daughters and maintains a private practice in
New York City of individual, couple, and group therapy.
Reader ReviewsCarolynn Hillman presents an effective way to eliminate the inner-critic with its degrading and put-down voice and teaches us how to replace this with a supportive inner caretaker so that we can truly be our authentic selves. This is the first book that I have found that gets to the root and digs out the cause of poor self-esteem. The first line in Chapter 3,"Why We Are the Way We Are" blew me away. She writes, "We devalue ourselves and treat ourselves in harsh, judgemental, overly critical ways because we have been taught to do so". Wow, that meant I could unlearn this and eliminate once and for all that self-destroying inner critical voice! I wasn't born flawed! The author gives clear, specific steps on how to do this and it works. I have been working on my self-esteem for many, many years; reading books, therapy, and praying. The day before I found this book on my friend's bookshelf,I had asked in anguish and frustration, "How do I do this? How do I be ME?!" This book was the answer. Even before I finished reading it and doing the exercises, I experienced a huge "energy exchange". I believe the term is panic attack (of which I had never had before). I was laughing and crying at the same time while unable to get enough air. I gulped and sobbed and laughed as I felt thoughts and emotions whirling and clashing inside me, rearranging themselves. Later I realized it was as if my authentic inner self was battling that "critical worthless" me that I thought was real. When I finally began to breath deeply again, I felt a self-acceptance in my heart and insides for the first time in my life. I knew that I was o.k. I was/am enough. I feel different. I even feel normal - whatever that is. Thank-you, thank-you, thank-you Carolynn Hillman for giving me back to myself. I am buying several copies for my daughter, my sisters and friends. So to anyone who is not living the life you want, or being the person you want to be, get this book, read it, do the exercises. You can change and truly be the wonderful, caring, loving and beautiful person you are.
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